Being a woman who loves BF3 means....part 3

Now I really like the social aspect of online gaming, and I've met a lot of really fun and interesting people while playing BF3. Playing by oneself is just not as fun as going together. I've also run into some annoying idiots and assholes, as have we all. But when you are a woman there is a extra dimension to the annoyance, and I will try to list what annoys me the most right now,  and why.

1. "You are so beautiful, girls who game are sooo hot!"
I don't remember asking for your opinion of my fuckability, so don't share. You probably mean well (and now I'm probably giving you way more credit than you deserve), but think about it, please. Women spend their entire lives being constantly graded for their looks and are expected at all times to serve as decor. I'm here to play a game, let me have my time off.


2. "It's so nice to see a girl who takes gaming seriously, there are so many fake attention whore girl posers acting like they are all special because they play cod"
Yeah, we're doing this for you. It's all for you. Without male approval, we wither and die. I am so thankful that you, Random Boy Gamer, are willing to bestow upon me my Gamer Certificate. And your willingness to stereotype and bash other female players is very comforting to me and makes me feel special.

3. "Are you really a girl?"
No, I can assure you I am not. Haven't been one since I lost the pigtails, grew boobs and got a job. Are you really a boy?

4. "Make me a sandwich! Haha I'm just kidding."
No you are not. You are a tiresome coward who wants to have an outlet for your misogyny and get away with it, and you can not possibly offer anything of interest in a social setting, seeing that you can't even try to be creative or show some backbone when you are insulting people.

All you guys from 1-4: you are annoying me and I know can't get rid of you. I just have to wait until you learn to behave, or until you die out and leave only the more evolved specimens here. Problem is I'm not a patient woman, as my sniping stats will clearly tell you, and you are incredibly slow to learn. I have hope though.

Being a woman who loves Battlefield means... part 2

1. Getting stalked and followed from server to server by weird people whom I have never talked to.
2. Being asked my bra size when informing my squad that the enemy is holed up behind the shed by the B-flag on Damavand peak.

This is what I do not love about you, Battlefield.

I hate hate hate these

constant fucking freezes! I'd say it's even worse after the latest patch, although now it never freezes in combat but always in the respawn menu. Always. I get so furious since it has nothing to do with me, I can not do anything about it. And for me, the problem is multiplied by the fact that I can't join deadie in his game without throwing him OUT of the server. So if we're playing together he needs to quit the game and rejoin with me. Same when his game freezes, I need to quit and rejoin.

This is what I do not love about you, Battlefield.

Rape metaphores

I hate them. Could you please stop using "rape" as a synonym for crushing superiority? I guess most of you use it out of habit and as part of the jargon, and you will say it does not mean anything, and that it isn't an expression of hatred or contempt against women, and that it doesn't even have anything to do with women. It's just words, just a game.

But you are mostly male. You have the luxury of living in a world where you are not the ones defined as rapable (although you are sometimes raped too), and where rape isn't a constantly present threat that you are supposed to adjust your lives to. You are not making decisions every day that takes rape into account, when walking to your car, when a strange man approaches you, when your boyfriend comes home.

And the most important thing: every sixth woman has been raped, many more have been subjected to sexual violence, even more have experienced seriously rape threatening situations. So when you say you raped someone in the game, you are most likely saying it to someone who has been raped or has a girlfriend, friend, sister, mother who has been raped. And you just labelled the perpetrator as a "winner".

How a person chooses to express him- or herself is always an individual choice, and you can choose to think that your own interpretation takes precedence and that 1) other people should understand how and what you really mean or 2) no one should fucking tell me how to speak because I say what the fuck I want and if people have a problem with that they are too fucking sensitive and that's their problem. Or 3) "I know a girl/I am a girl and she/I have absolutely NO problem with this, so if anyone else has, they are being RIDICULOUS.

Or you could just follow the main rule: Don't be a dick.

In any case, don't just throw the word around without a thought. It is not trivial.

Bugs, bugs

The third time I got my 48:th service star with the AEK-971 I started to suspect something was not right. Battlelog hasn't recorded my stats for like three days. Huh.

What the hell...

I am so bad. I am so bad at this I suck fucking horses ass. Shitty fucking game, I hate it. I swear will never play it again. Go to hell, Battlefield. Fuck!